A Letter To The Adventurers
Just a rumor of bad weather in the South sends us into hiberation: classes get canceled, campus closes, and all the bread and milk disappear from the grocery store. On our snow day, I looked through an old personal hard drive with photos that date back to college through my time as a working photographer. So many memories, from chapters in my life that have closed to chapters that will remain open forever, like the pursuit to discover the world and be part of a future filled with less strife and hatred and misunderstanding, and with more love and hope and appreciation of the differences that make us all sacred.
I found photos from my own study abroad experience with IES Abroad in Beijing, China. The two below are from Tiger Leaping Gorge in Yunnan Province, China, near Lijiang, early 2001, us studying abroad and just the beginning of my lifelong journey to learn about myself and the world.
After a 46 hour train ride from Beijing, we spent 3 weeks in Yunnan for Chinese New Year, learning about the Mosuo women, ethnic minorities, agriculture, the Hump, and seeing how beautiful the foothills of the Himalayas were with my own eyes. Yunnan means “south of the clouds” in Chinese, and seeing those peaks rise above the mist, something I’d only dreamed about, I understood why. Fireworks, Pu’er tea, and mooncakes were a staple with our host family, whose patriarch was a talented woodblock print artist and whose art I have on my wall.
Tiger Leaping Gorge, Yunnan Province, China, January 2001. Yours truly is second from the right.
Tiger Leaping Gorge, Yunnan Province, China, January 2001.
Looking back reminded me how excited I was to leave for China in January 2001. I still have my old journal, in which I wrote about my worries and goals for the semester (some of it in Chinese!), and I returned from that experience with fresh perspectives, newfound confidence, the belief that I could achieve anything, and lifelong friends. Though we have met up sporadically throughout the years, social media has let us share in each other's growth and success. There was no social media during our time together, so everything we did is hidden away in memory (some for the best), and I’m grateful to have unearthed those memories, metaphorically and physically, on a snow day.
Pre-9/11, so I remember my parents waving from the window at MEM.
Now, as I watch students embark on their own study abroad adventures, I remember the mix of excitement and anxiety I felt about living in another country, learning a new language, and wondering if I'd find my place. For many of our students, this is their one chance to study abroad during college. Like the photos I discovered on our snow day, their experiences will become treasured memories, a reminder how exploring the world opens our hearts to different cultures and ways of being. I still drink Pu’er tea.
While we review all the below in our orientation, I shared the following message with our spring students (some information added and excluded for this post), and perhaps it resonates with anyone who might be traveling soon. (The nitty gritty of safety tips and policies are communicated separately.)
Dear Students,
By choosing to study abroad, you are stepping into an extraordinary adventure that will shape your perspective, broaden your horizons, and leave an indelible mark on your personal, academic, and professional journey. Did you know that only 9.3% of U.S. undergraduate students take advantage of the opportunity to study abroad during their academic careers? (Source: IIE Open Doors data for AY 2022/23) Your choice to study abroad is courageous and commendable.
Studying abroad is a bold decision that requires an exciting discomfort. You’re not just visiting a new country, you are immersing yourself in a different culture, engaging with new ideas, and learning to navigate unfamiliar environments. This experience is a testament to your curiosity, adaptability, and ability to grow as an individual.
It is important to acknowledge that such a transformative journey is not without its challenges. Culture shock, homesickness, and the adjustment to new academic and social norms can be overwhelming at times. Remember that these challenges are an integral part of your experience. Overcoming them will make you more resilient, empathetic, and globally minded, qualities that are invaluable in today’s interconnected world and global workplaces.
Below is information to help you get the most from your experience and nurture the independence, cultural awareness, and personal growth you will no doubt achieve. I’ve included some questions for reflection and encourage you to answer them in your own way - I suggest a journal.
Understanding Culture Shock
Culture shock is a common experience for students studying abroad, and it’s completely normal. Think of it as a four-act play:
Honeymoon Stage: Everything feels exciting and new. You’re fascinated by the differences and eager to explore.
Frustration Stage: The novelty wears off, and you may start feeling irritated or homesick. Small differences, like food, language barriers, or social customs, might feel overwhelming.
Adjustment Stage: Gradually, you start to adapt to your surroundings. You’ll find routines and develop strategies to navigate daily life more comfortably.
Acceptance Stage: You embrace your new environment and appreciate it for its unique aspects. This doesn’t mean you won’t miss home, but you’ll feel more settled and confident.
Understanding these stages can help you identify and manage your feelings. Remember, you are not alone in this experience. Your program classmates are going through the same thing in their own way. Fellow students, program coordinators, and local mentors can provide support and guidance.
As you move through the stages of culture shock, answer these questions:
Think about a moment when you felt out of place or uncomfortable in your host country. What strategies did you use to adapt? How did this experience help you grow as a person?
Reflect on a time when you felt frustrated or homesick. How did you cope, and what insights did you gain about your resilience and adaptability?
I remember during my time in China, I got sick. It was a result of eating “Western” food, and hindsight being 20/20, I should have just stuck with my beloved jiǎo zi and dìsānxiān. I remember it compounding my culture shock, because all I wanted was my mom. We didn’t have cell phones and not even Skype was an option. Luckily, I was able to get some vials of thick, black liquid at the pharmacy, trusting the pharmacist to understand my symptoms as I explained them in Chinese. I’ll never forget how to say one of them… Remember that culture shock happens to everyone, and it can be a lingering feeling or triggered by something specific (like getting sick or missing a special holiday), but eventually it passes. It is a natural part of our learning and unlearning process, and it tells us a lot about ourselves, our biases, and our strengths. I learned about my own independence, self-care, and trust. Now, I recognize the great importance of language skills for health care providers because I remember struggling to explain what was wrong and hoping I wasn’t being treated for poison ivy.
Tips for a Successful Study Abroad Experience
To help you make the most of your semester abroad, here are some tips:
1. Embrace Cultural Differences
One of the most rewarding aspects of studying abroad is the opportunity to immerse yourself in a new culture. Take time to learn about the local customs, traditions, and values. Attend cultural events such as festivals, art exhibits, or traditional performances to experience the vibrancy of your host culture. Try new cuisine by visiting local restaurants, food markets, or street vendors to get a true taste of the region. Participate in community activities like volunteering, joining local clubs, or attending workshops that teach traditional crafts or skills. For example, you could take a cooking class to learn how to prepare local dishes, join a dance class to explore traditional music and movement, or attend a language exchange meetup to connect with locals and practice the language. These experiences will deepen your understanding and appreciation of the host culture while helping you form meaningful connections.
During my time in China, I was hired to record English words and phrases for English learners and be the face of the teaching materials. My boss did not speak any English, and he was so concerned that I didn’t have a heavy enough coat for the winter that he gave me a Chinese army jacket - the standard green one. I also learned how to eat squab and partake in many gān bēi with báijiǔ with him and his friends.
In your planning and while abroad, follow these suggestions. Also, be open to new experiences, like learning what squab is…
Create a list of goals for your semester and check them off as you go. As you embrace new perspectives, think about the following questions:
Reflect on a situation where you encountered a cultural practice that felt unfamiliar or surprising. How did you respond, and what steps did you take to understand the cultural context? How might someone from your host culture view this same situation?
2. Learn the Language
Even if your courses are in English, learning the local language can greatly enhance your experience. Start with basic phrases like greetings, asking for directions, and ordering food. Language skills not only make daily life easier but also help you build connections with locals. Consider taking a language class or practicing with language apps. Notice the etymology of words and be curious about language. If you are studying in a location where the native or official language is English, learn the differences in English usage. It is fascinating!
As you learn a new language or continue your language learning, think about the following question:
Share an experience where language differences led to a misunderstanding or challenge. How did you resolve it, and what did you learn about communication beyond words?
There is usually a moment in a language learners’ life where they realize they are naturally speaking another language. When this moment happened for me, I was buying a spring roll from a street vendor in Beijing. I can see the sunshine, the street scene, and the man’s face, even now. I realized in that moment that I was having a conversation, and it was exhilarating to know that I could communicate with billions of people, billions more than I could just a few months prior to that moment.
When you return to Ole Miss, remember the discomfort of learning and growth. Remember that in the South, we have accents that are different and be patient when you meet a fellow student who probably speaks 5 languages and English is their third one. Our pronunciation of “light” might not be as “right” as we think.
3. Stay Open-Minded
Approach every experience with curiosity and an open mind. You may encounter customs or perspectives that differ significantly from what you know. Instead of judging or dismissing them, try to understand the context and reasoning behind them. This mindset will enrich your experience and foster mutual respect. For example, if you find yourself confused by a local practice, consider asking a friendly local or mentor about its significance. People are often eager to share the history and meaning behind their traditions. When faced with unfamiliar behaviors or social norms, try to observe and adapt rather than imposing your own expectations. View these moments as opportunities to challenge your assumptions and broaden your worldview. By embracing differences with curiosity, you’ll develop empathy and gain a deeper appreciation for the diversity that makes every culture unique. Remember, every encounter, whether it’s a small gesture or a major event, is a chance to learn and grow. Keep a journal to reflect on these experiences and what they teach you about yourself and the world.
Think about the following question as you write in your journal:
Describe an activity or event you participated in that helped you connect with locals. What did you learn about the community, and how did it change your perception of the culture?
4. Build a Support Network
Connect with your peers, host families, and local mentors. Join student organizations or attend social events to meet people. Building a support network will provide you with companionship and guidance. Seek out opportunities to join international student groups, clubs related to your interests, or local community organizations. Attend campus events such as orientation sessions, cultural nights, or sports activities to meet others with shared experiences. If you have one, engage with your host family and share meals, participate in family traditions, or simply spend time together. These activities provide invaluable insights into local life. Consider finding a mentor or buddy program, like our Global Ambassadors Program, designed to connect international students with local residents or senior students who can offer advice and support. Don’t hesitate to reach out to your program coordinator or counseling services if you face challenges. Remember, the connections you build during your time abroad can lead to lifelong friendships, a deeper understanding of your host culture, and more insight into your own culture and actions.
5. Maintain a Journal or Blog
Documenting your experiences is a great way to process your thoughts and preserve memories. Write about your challenges, triumphs, and observations. You can keep a private journal or share your journey through a blog or social media. This will not only help you reflect on your growth but also inspire others to consider studying abroad.
I still have my journal from 20+ years ago. Even if I had never traveled outside the United States again, I have those memories and reflections saved for me to page through and remember how it felt to be in a new place, learning about the world first-hand. Looking back, some of it is a little embarrassing, but it was real. It was how I felt at the time, and I can’t go back and edit it. It is important to honor that present as it was and to recognize how far you’ve come.
6. Prioritize Your Well-Being
Your physical and mental health are crucial during your time abroad. Maintain a balanced diet by exploring local grocery stores and experimenting with new, healthy ingredients. Get enough sleep to stay energized and focused and establish a routine that incorporates regular exercise. If you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed, take time to relax and recharge through mindfulness practices, such as meditation or journaling.
One of my favorite things to do is go for a run around a new city, especially in the mornings. I learn so much about the daily life of the city, when shops open, fashion trends, dogs, and it doesn’t hurt that post-run I can have a coffee and pastry at a local café I may never have found but for my run. Even a short walk around your neighborhood can help you stay active and discover your surroundings.
Many programs offer resources like counseling services, wellness workshops, or peer support groups, and we have online counselors available through your insurance policy. If you have any health conditions, maintain contact with your primary care physician or therapist for regular check-ins and always talk about your study abroad plans prior to departure so you can be prepared to keep yourself healthy, from dietary restrictions or chronic illnesses to mental health challenges. Remember, prioritizing your well-being ensures that you’ll have the energy and mindset to fully engage with your experiences abroad.
7. Explore and Travel
Take advantage of your location to explore the host country and nearby regions. Traveling expands your understanding of different cultures, histories, and landscapes. Research destinations that are accessible by train, bus, or short flights, and plan trips during breaks or weekends. To make your travel meaningful, consider visiting smaller towns or rural areas that offer an authentic glimpse into local life. Engage with locals during your travels by participating in guided tours, visiting cultural landmarks, or exploring regional cuisines. However, balance is key, ensure that your travel plans do not interfere with your academic responsibilities or your need for rest. Keep a journal of your travel experiences to reflect on what you’ve learned and to capture the memories of each adventure.
8. Engage Academically
Studying abroad is not just about cultural immersion; it is STUDY abroad after all. Take full advantage of your classes by engaging actively in discussions and projects. Research your professors’ backgrounds and areas of expertise to better understand their perspectives and teaching styles. Participate in extracurricular academic events such as guest lectures, field trips, or workshops to enhance your learning experience. Use the resources available at your host institution, including libraries, study groups, or academic advisors, to support your studies. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or seek clarification if you find the academic expectations or methods different. Embrace this opportunity to broaden your academic horizons, as it will deepen your understanding of your field of study and offer insights that may influence your future career or academic goals.
Some food for thought:
Consider an issue or challenge faced by your host country that differs from those in your home country. How has this shaped your understanding of global interconnectedness?
Share an instance where you shared something about your own culture with someone in your host country. What was their reaction, and how did it influence your interaction?
For students from the United States, remember that your American identity might spark unexpected conversations. You may find it surprising that others may know more about your own government or policies than you do, which is a reflection of the influence the United States plays in politics, economics, and other areas and its direct impact on other countries – be it related to climate change, currency devaluation, inflation, trade, education, and political views. Embrace these moments as opportunities to broaden your perspective. It is not only important to research these topics as they relate to your host country but also be informed about how the United States’ policies affect other countries. You will find that your preconceived notions are challenged, and you will come back with a broader perspective and understanding of how connected we all are and how you can play a role in making positive changes in the world.
9. Stay Connected, Thoughtfully
I always say that we want you to share your adventures on social media to make everyone back home jealous, but it is important to step away from your phone and be present. Don’t live your experience through a filter. Schedule calls or share updates through posts or photos rather than constantly texting or calling home. We encourage scheduling because this allows your loved ones to let you pursue your independence but also gives them a sense of security that they’ll see your face on their screen regularly. It sets expectations that allow you to be spontaneous, keeps loved ones from calling the Embassy if you lose your phone or WiFi for an hour, or allows you to have the most magical day where you didn’t think about your phone at all.
I have seen students rely too heavily on constant communication back home, and this kept them from maximizing their experience. It is unfair for your loved ones to ask you to disrupt your time abroad for them, and it will exacerbate your homesickness. Balance gained through scheduling (a dedicated time once a week is a good start) helps you feel grounded while embracing your new environment.
10. Be Prepared for Re-Entry
When your semester ends, returning home can be an adjustment as well. Reverse culture shock is common, as you may feel out of sync with your previous routines or relationships. Reflect on your experiences, share your stories, and find ways to integrate what you’ve learned into your life back home.
The study abroad memes are true – we can’t stop talking about it. We can connect you with other students who are dying to tell their stories but find disinterested (aka jealous) ears upon return. Even if you studied abroad in opposite locations on the globe, you’ll find that a lot of the growth amongst your fellow returnees occurred in much the same ways, and you’ll have sympathetic listeners with other study abroad alumni. Connect with international students who are experiencing the same thing but at Ole Miss. Remember how it felt to be in a new place and bring that energy, compassion, and hospitality to new students.
Some final reflective journal questions:
Think about a stereotype you may have had about your host culture before arriving. How has your experience challenged or confirmed this perception?
As you near the end of your program, how do you plan to integrate what you’ve learned into your life back home? What advice would you give to future students preparing for a similar journey?
By studying abroad, you are part of a global movement toward greater understanding and collaboration. You’ve demonstrated initiative, resilience, and a commitment to learning that will serve you well throughout your life. Employers, graduate schools, and communities value the skills and experiences gained through international education. Be proud of your decision to embark on this journey and the person you are becoming.
As you prepare for this life-changing experience, remember that you are not alone. Your institution and study abroad advisors are here to support you every step of the way. Trust in your abilities, embrace the unknown, and allow yourself to grow in ways you never imagined. This semester is not just about academics, but remember that our policy is that all courses are ABCDF-graded (no Pass/Fail)! It’s about discovering who you are and how you fit into this beautiful world.